Clients who know how to: negotiate, keep emotions in check, and use words to get their points across, seem to do better during the divorce process and beyond. Part of my work as a divorce coach is to pay close attention to how clients react when they are getting what they want and when they are not. Read more
What does it mean when a person says they want to be divorced as quickly as possible? I can never be quite sure. Generally, people come into my office when they are feeling angry, sad, distant from, or just plain fed up with their spouse and their marriage. Read more
“We want a divorce, but our home is worth less than we bought it for and we can’t afford two houses” has become a mantra among today’s divorcing couples. With unemployment at an all time high, housing prices ‘under water’, and a sluggish economy, many couples undergoing a Massachusetts divorce are becoming much more creative and working together when it comes to living arrangements. Read more
A client spoke with me recently about how exhausted she had been feeling. This took her quite by surprise as, after years and years of unhappiness and finally feeling able to move ahead with a divorce, she had hoped to feel better. She didn’t expect to feel so irritable, de-energized, and just plain tired out. “Why should I feel so lousy if I’ve finally gotten up the nerve to ask for what I want: A divorce, and the chance to move ahead toward a happier life?” Read more
Clearly, everyone who undergoes a divorce is entitled to his or her own custom-made, personally designed divorce experience. There is most definitely one out there that will fit the bill for everybody who wants one.
As a Coach, Mediator, and Psychotherapist I regularly meet very interesting people and hear some very interesting divorce ideas. I’ve learned about Read more
When you mention the word ‘divorce’ to a family member, friend, or colleague, most people will immediately share a divorce story, express their concerns, or give you specific instructions (i.e.-“Make sure you keep the ______”). Why does this happen? Well, divorce is a Read more
Micki McWade’s article, “10 Tips For A Sane Divorce: Five For You, Five For Me”, outlines the steps both the person asking for the divorce as well as the one it is happening to can take to feel more prepared. She makes the point that there are big differences between the emotional mindset of the initiator vs. the non-initiator of divorce. Read more
Only one divorce process can teach clients new skills that they can use to live a better and happier life after the divorce. These days there are a number of divorce processes to choose from when seeking a Massachusetts divorce but only one of these can offer clients a chance to learn new communication, decision making, and relationship skills.
- provides clients with opportunities to improve relationships. They can learn how to fight less and talk more, make better decisions, think about and work toward realistic personal and family goals, and explore what is most important for living more successfully right now and in the future.
The collaborative process
- encourages clients to grow and develop themselves and work productively through the divorce process with an eye toward living a better life.
Not necessarily so says Laura Munson of the Huffington Post Divorce Blog. In her thought provoking new post at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/laura-munson/choosing-your-emotions-in_b_845897.html she talks about the importance of looking beyond the words that your oh-so-unhappy-soon-to-be- ex might be saying about you, and quieting down your own internal negative chatter and not jumping to the conclusion that it really is all your fault. Read more
Most people have heard of divorce attorneys and mediators, but what does a divorce coach do and who needs one? View this full post by Betsy Ross, LICSW Read more
"Is divorce ever an easy process? Probably not. However, it was beneficial for me to have had an impartial, empathic, professional divorce coach on hand to guide the divorce process along, keep us focused on outcomes, and finally to reach our goals with harmony and clarity." Elaine from Norfolk County, MA