Co-Parenting Questions: What is a good parenting plan for my family and me?
From: LM, in Norfolk County
Excellent question, LM!
An effective parenting plan is created just for you and your family and is not a one size fits all (or ‘template’) plan. Crafting your plan (like making a scrumptious meal from scratch) will take some time and skill. Working with the right professional, who can truly LISTEN and LEARN about you and your family, ask the right questions to develop an understanding of how you have done things in the past (and even present you with good ideas on what might work for the future) is essential. The plan with the best fit for your family will be based on:
-Your particular children’s ages, personalities, temperament, and coping skills
-Yours (and your Ex’s) own personalities, relationship skills, and how communication abilities
-Your past marital/couple relationship style and your co-parenting relationship goals
Keep in mind that all of the above change over time, too, so your parenting plan should regularly be reviewed and updated to better suit the needs of your ever growing/changing children and family. The best Parenting Plan is one that is customized to fit the needs of your particular children, of your particular co-parenting relationship (accounting for each of your communication and decision making styles) and for your family’s work/school/activity schedule.