Read this thought provoking article by Lindsay Geller, of Ashton Kucher’s ‘A+ Media‘ on what to do if you are not happy with your new significant other’s Co-parenting style…and see what I had to say about this:
You can teach the people around you how to have a successful and enjoyable relationship with ….YOU! First, you will need to take the time to consider WHO you are in a relationship and HOW you want to structure your connections with friends, colleagues, acquaintances, and others. This step is important as defining relationship needs can enable you to communicate what you want and then get it! Once you can identify what works for you and what does not, you can teach others how to be in a relationship with you and learn what their relationship expectations are as well. Taking responsibility for providing important information to others on what will and will not work for you relationship-wise is a wonderful first step toward building community for yourself. This can add up to more satisfying and more productive relationships with those you choose to connect with (and even with those you can’t choose but have to be in relationship with—think bosses, co-workers, in-laws, etc).
You can begin your journey to more enjoyable relating by answering this simple question Read more
Women who work outside the home have found it increasingly challenging to meet and balance all of their professional and personal life responsibilities. Will the recent announcement by Facebook and Apple, to enable women to put off starting a family (by covering expenses for freezing an employee’s eggs for later use) be a positive step?
Might this improve a woman’s ability to make it to the top of corporate life as she will (potentially) have more time to do so? Also, what effect might this have on marriage and divorce rates?Remember, this technology is not perfect and it cannot guarantee that a frozen egg will someday produce a baby….
To read the recently published article on this, go to: Work Life Balance
Relationship and Divorce Coaching—-Mediation—Weekend Retreat for Professional Women
Part 2 of a Series. In part one of this series, I outlined some of the external obstacles women encounter that can block their pathways to success and some common self-sabotaging behaviors they engage in. In Part 2, five personal/ internal reasons why women might self-sabotage their own success will be identified. Anyone will tell you that success comes at a cost. We all have thoughts and feelings about success and about what might happen if we had more of it. There are thoughts about the potential rewards (i.e.-fame, glory, riches, etc). BUT, we also have other thoughts, feelings, and concerns about what having more success might mean to us and how it might negatively impact our lives. If left unarticulated or unaddressed, these can shut us down, roadblock us, and cause us to sabotage our own chances. Here are 5 reasons why a woman might sabotage her own success: Read more
If you think you know what a “typical” family in America looks like these days, think again. The predominance of cohabiting couples, same sex couples, and single parents challenge our traditional understanding of what a “family” is. Read Natalie Angier’s article in today’s New York Times: Families.
In Part 1 of this 2 part series, we examined the role feelings play as parents move through the ending of the marriage/divorce process and then beyond into a co-parenting relationship. In this article, we will explore how to effectively make the emotional shift from spouse to ex-spouse to cooperative co-parent, in two big steps. In Step 1, you will Read more
What does it take to transition emotionally from spouses to ‘exes’ to co-parents? How can you engage peacefully in the business of raising healthy children with someone you used to be married to with all of that history between you? Rolling back your relationship to a more formal, business-like arrangement might seem impossible, but while it can be a challenging and difficult process, it is do-able. It’s also much better for your children.
While there is no perfect “How To” on this, there are some guidelines that can help you Read more
It may be true that “Money makes the world go round”, but social connections: relationships with colleagues, peers, and in the community, make us live longer! In Jane Brody’s Personal Health column (New York Times, March 27, 2012) she states that “In study after study…people in loving relationships with spouses or friends were healthier than those lacking this intimacy, even when the latter had healthier living habits. Read more
In order to get more of what you want in relationships, it’s important to recognize that there is a “choreography” to good relationships. When relationships work well, each person has Read more
Many couples enter my office hoping to work on their marriage, but not having a clear vision as to how they might go about it. For many couples, previous efforts to make the marriage better in some way or another did not work. Some have not yet tried anything new or different, but realize that things just aren’t quite right and that a change is needed, while others have concluded that something in the marriage is truly broken and must be fixed. That’s where I come in. Read more
"Is divorce ever an easy process? Probably not. However, it was beneficial for me to have had an impartial, empathic, professional divorce coach on hand to guide the divorce process along, keep us focused on outcomes, and finally to reach our goals with harmony and clarity." Elaine from Norfolk County, MA