6 Tips to Succeed More and Self-Sabotage Less

self sab buttonPart 3 in a Series By Betsy Ross, LICSW, CGP

The previous articles of this series outlined common self-sabotaging behaviors and discussed the reasons why even the most level headed, driven, and smart women engage in these from time to time (or frequently).

This final article of the series includes 6 effective tips to help you in the process of increasing your success by decreasing self-sabotaging behaviors.

 1. Get Curious.

Instead of just chalking it up to rotten luck or attributing disappointing outcomes to the ‘situation’,  be open and get curious about the fact that you ran out of gas and missed the big meeting or dropped your phone in the toilet or forgot the power cord for your uncharged laptop. Be willing to entertain the possibility that YOU (or your innermost concerns about success) are the issue and that this is indeed self-sabotage. Commit to spend some time and energy on discovering why you might be concerned about increasing your success—what the potential negatives might be for you and pay attention to these.

2. Live ‘AS IF’ Instead of ‘WHAT IF’ Read more

Frozen Eggs: A Novel Solution to the Work/Life Balance Issue?

egg babyWomen who work outside the home have found it increasingly challenging to meet and balance all of their professional and personal life responsibilities. Will the recent announcement by Facebook and Apple, to enable women to put off starting a family (by covering expenses for freezing an employee’s eggs for later use) be a positive step?

Might this improve a woman’s ability to make it to the top of corporate life as she will (potentially) have more time to do so? Also, what effect might this have on marriage and divorce rates?Remember, this technology is not perfect and it cannot guarantee that a frozen egg will someday produce a baby….

To read the recently published article on this, go to: Work Life Balance


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Are You Sabotaging Your Success? Part 1 in a Series

Why do some women seem to soar and succeed, while others – equally as talented and bright – never seem to reach the top of their game—could they be sabotaging their own success?

The professional women I’ve met and worked with are bright, hard working, and talented. So why aren’t they all as successful as Oprah Winfrey, Sheryl Sandberg, or Hillary Clinton? Read more