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So You Know About The Affair…Now What?

What should you do once you have learned your spouse has been unfaithful? Some people, having just learned about an affair, come to my office wanting a divorce as fast as possible. Others, want to go out and get even, while still others, upon hearing the news of infidelity, try to ignore it and just move on with life. Hopefully, this will never happen to you, but, if it does, how you handle it will greatly depend on your thoughts about what infidelity or cheating really means.

To learn more, read my newest Huffington Post article on this topic and see what makes sense to you:  INFIDELITY

 

If Divorce Is The Solution, What Is The Problem?

blamingYour best chances at finding the right partner and creating a satisfying relationship going forward may depend on your answer to the ‘If divorce was the solution, what was the problem?’ question. Taking the time and energy to address this difficult divorce query now can greatly impact your future relationships and overall happiness. If your answer to this question was, MY SPOUSE, then undeniably, you are partially correct. However, if that is your only answer, then you are Read more

I Really Wanted The Divorce So Why Do I Feel So Bad?

feelingsA client spoke with me recently about how exhausted she had been feeling. This took her quite by surprise as, after years and years of unhappiness and finally feeling able to move ahead with a divorce, she had hoped to feel better. She didn’t expect to feel so irritable, de-energized, and just plain tired out. “Why should I feel so lousy if I’ve finally gotten up the nerve to ask for what I want: A divorce, and the chance to move ahead toward a happier life?” Read more