What should you do once you have learned your spouse has been unfaithful? Some people, having just learned about an affair, come to my office wanting a divorce as fast as possible. Others, want to go out and get even, while still others, upon hearing the news of infidelity, try to ignore it and just move on with life.
In between collaborative divorce or mediation sessions, should you and your spouse try to come to agreement on issues at the dining room table? Read more
Many couples enter my office hoping to work on their marriage, but not having a clear vision as to how they might go about it. For many couples, previous efforts to make the marriage better in some way or another did not work. Some have not yet tried anything new or different, but realize that things just aren’t quite right and that a change is needed, while others have concluded that something in the marriage is truly broken and must be fixed. That’s where I come in. Read more
Want to fight less with your spouse? Then don’t be yourself! It’s only natural for there to be disagreement from time to time between any two people in a relationship. How you work things out (or don’t) has a great impact on your day to day life and on your marriage overall. So, how do you and your spouse go about fighting or disagreeing?
Do you do what you have always done or are you thinking of trying something different? How you choose to fight or try to settle disagreements has an enormous impact on the quality of your day to day life together. Couples often fall into a repetitive pattern of behavior when conflict rears its ugly head. This pattern may be undetectable to the spouses who are enacting it, but a studied, objective eye can be helpful in spotting the types of thinking, feelings, and behaviors are getting repeated. Here are a few examples of the unhelpful patterns that couples can fall into when each person is just acting as they always act and being “themselves”: Read more