Part 2 of a Series. In part one of this series, I outlined some of the external obstacles women encounter that can block their pathways to success and some common self-sabotaging behaviors they engage in. In Part 2, five personal/ internal reasons why women might self-sabotage their own success will be identified. Anyone will tell you that success comes at a cost. We all have thoughts and feelings about success and about what might happen if we had more of it. There are thoughts about the potential rewards (i.e.-fame, glory, riches, etc). BUT, we also have other thoughts, feelings, and concerns about what having more success might mean to us and how it might negatively impact our lives. If left unarticulated or unaddressed, these can shut us down, roadblock us, and cause us to sabotage our own chances. Here are 5 reasons why a woman might sabotage her own success: Read more
One of the necessary ingredients to a woman’s ability to succeed in the workplace is her ability to accept and manage criticism, according to this recent New York Times article (“Learning to Love Criticism”, Sunday Review, 9.28.14) by Tara Mohr.
This article states that, based on a recent study conducted by Fortune.com, women are far more likely to receive negative feedback from their supervisors in the workplace AND the negative feedback women receive includes some kind of criticism of her personality 76 percent of the time (vs. 2 percent of the time for men). Read more
Why do some women seem to soar and succeed, while others – equally as talented and bright – never seem to reach the top of their game—could they be sabotaging their own success?
The professional women I’ve met and worked with are bright, hard working, and talented. So why aren’t they all as successful as Oprah Winfrey, Sheryl Sandberg, or Hillary Clinton? Read more
Believe it or not, when it comes to the most important issues, we humans are naturally of two minds and often find ourselves both wanting and not wanting the exact same thing, to some degree. In other words, we are naturally ambivalent about most things—we see the potential positives and the potential negatives of situations. Read more
It can be difficult to imagine how after your divorce you and your ex-spouse will be able to make difficult or complicated parenting decisions together. For some, by the end of the marriage, agreeing on anything at all just wasn’t possible so to expect to be able to work as partners now in raising children can seem ridiculous. Read more
Deep relaxation is essential for good health, balance, and a positive outlook, but most of us don’t even know HOW to relax deeply. We don’t relax enough and when we do, we don’t relax as deeply as we could. In just five minutes, you can learn to relax deeply. Read more
Even though your divorce may already be under way, a genuine and heartfelt apology for your part in the breakdown of your marriage can help! Read my newest article in the Huffington Post Divorce Blog on the power of apologies: Read more
Professional Retreats are becoming more and more popular these days, perhaps because women are feeling more stressed and less valued in the workplace (according to a study conducted in 2013 by the American Psychological Association). Wouldn’t it be great if YOU could take time out and hit the ‘reset’ button while also networking, replenishing yourself, and learning something new? Read more
If you think you know what a “typical” family in America looks like these days, think again. The predominance of cohabiting couples, same sex couples, and single parents challenge our traditional understanding of what a “family” is. Read more
One way to settle into your new post-divorce single life is to take a solo trip. This doesn’t need to be a far away journey, (it could even be at your local inn). It just needs to be an opportunity for you to venture out…on your own! Read more